Single Women in the Church: The Issue of Submission

I was talking to some of my older brothers in Christ at church the other day and I received some great insight on marriage and submission.  One man was telling me how powerful and strong his marriage is because of the way his wife is submitted to him.  You see, I asked the question of "Why are there so many single women in the body of Christ"?  Now I know there may be a number of reasons for this such as, selfishness, not being ready spiritually, mentally, emotionally or physically, having trust issues etc...but submission is the key. Of course, the husband has to submit to the wife as well, and this particular gentleman is very submitted to his wife.  More importantly, they are both submitted to God and are leaders in their respective ministry areas.  This conversation however, opened my eyes to the power that a woman holds when she submits to her HUSBAND (not boyfriend or someone she is dating).  When she operates in the spirit of meekness, she operates in unlimited power.

The Bible tells us the importance of submission in Ephesians 5.  Let's take a look. It says "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; " (Ephesians 5:22-25).  So as the word says, we should submit to each other as the Lord desires us to do so.  That goes for the man and the woman.  A lot of men take that scripture out of context to manipulate women, but we must submit one to another in Love as Christ loved the church.

When a woman chooses to submit, she chooses to WIN!  There is NO man that will turn down a woman that is ready to submit.  Many argue that this is why some black men date white women.  While I am not sure if those motives are true, it's definitely not far-fetched to think that may be a part of it.  Personally, I look at the person and what is on the inside, not the skin color, but that's another discussion.  Anyway, submission brings about peace in the household.  When two people are not constantly arguing about who's right or wrong there is the presence of calmness and agreement.  There is no longer such a strong spirit of anger, strife, and anguish.  Forgiveness and Love abounds in a peaceful relationship.  The two of you can grow together a lot easier and overcome challenges with greater success.

The man that I spoke to at church has great testimony of how much success he and his wife share.  They are debt free in their personal lives and their ministry areas at church continually grow with people that are eager to serve alongside them as well as give into their respective ministry areas time, finances, resources etc...They are so BLESSED.  I believe that this is because they have tapped into the power of submission.  They are people of prayer and always acknowledge how God is the forefront of their lives.  Submission to God FIRST is the key to a successful marriage.  I even watch their relationship at church and have heard the husband tell his wife he LOVES her and show it as well.  There is so much RESPECT between the two of them.  Respect or the lack thereof is another reason that so many women in the church are single.  So many times they just do not respect men anymore.  This has to change if these women ever want to be married.  Doing what you want to do and being disrespectful is not the way to get married.

Sometimes you have to submit even when you think the man may be wrong.  Don't argue with him, let God correct him.  When a person finds out they were wrong they become apologetic and you now have the power.  That is what submission can do for you.  Men must make sure to do their part in the role of submission as well.  The scripture says "So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: " (Ephesians 5:28-29).  So men must Love and cherish their wives as themselves and their own flesh.  He should treat her how he would want to be treated, because women reciprocate what they are given.

An important factor to note is that the man that I spoke to at church is an excellent provider.  He has a great job, is a man of prayer, treats his wife with respect, does what she requests of him, and is a leader at church.  When a man does his part, then it is easier for a woman to submit to him.  So ladies, make sure the man is being obedient to God and you can feel at peace when you follow him.  Also, submitting in the form of cooking, cleaning, not yelling back and forth, etc...will always make a man submit to you a lot easier.  Everyone knows the saying "the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach".  This IS and always will remain true.  So ladies, it doesn't hurt to throw down in the kitchen.  I have heard testimony of men that did not initially like their future wives until they mastered the kitchen.  So please believe you me, that a man LOVES a woman that can cook.

So let's prayerfully consider the power of submission.  It is pleasing to God that both men and women submit to each other in the union of marriage.  We can do this!


Below is a video from Shanel Cooper-Sykes about the power of submission from a woman's perspective.  Take a listen.

Many are the Afflictions...

Is Satan messing with you?  The Bible tells us that many are the afflictions of the righteous; but the Lord delivers him out of them all (Psalm 34:19).  Satan feels threatened and afraid when a Christian discovers their worth and whom they are.  When a Christian gets real about their faith Satan knows that he cannot stop them from obtaining EVERYTHING that God has for them.  Just remember that greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world (1 John 4:4).  Don't let Satan's predictable distractions sidetrack you from your destiny.  Continue to operate in the fruit of the spirit. " But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law." (Galatians 5:22-23).  We must maintain our composure when going through trials.  Stay focused. 


Don't stop standing on God's promises.  The weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds (2 Cor. 10:4).  You do not wrestle against flesh and blood (Ephesians 6:12).  He honors his word and it will not return unto him void (Isaiah 55:11).  If he said that he will do it, then it will come to pass! It is finished, settled, done!  So when Satan begins to attack you just get excited, because that lets you know that you are on the right path.  Praise God in the midst of your circumstance, it will confuse the enemy!    They will think "why is he praising God with so much going wrong"?  It is because that's what people of faith do.  We praise in the midst of trouble because we know that we have already won.  No matter how it looks, because we walk by faith and not by sight. (2 Cor. 5:7) Here are a few things to remember when you are under attack from the enemy.


What you are going through is part of being a Christian.  "12 Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you: 13 But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ's sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy." So don't feel like something unfair or wrong is going on.  Get used to the fact that as a Christian you will be tested and tried.  Be glad though, because there is glory to be had from your endurance!

What the devil meant for evil will turn around in your favor just as it states with Joseph in Genesis chapter 50 "But as for you, ye thought evil against me; [but] God meant it unto good, to bring to pass, as [it is] this day, to save much people alive. "(Genesis 50:20)  So, even when people think that what they are doing can stop you, God can make a wonderful end out of it. Their wicked plans and schemes will not work out like that thought it would.


While you are being persecuted, pray for your accusers.  Even though it may seem hard, you must pray for your enemies. "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;" (Matthew 5:44)  Even Jesus spoke on behalf of his enemies. "Then said Jesus, Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. And they parted his raiment, and cast lots." (Luke 23:34)  Do not hold malice against those that come against you.  Sometimes they do not even realize what they are doing.  When you hold anger and unforgiving feelings in your heart it only blocks your own blessings from flowing.  You overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:21) Besides, vengeance is the Lord's anyway even though we should not wish that on anyone.  Instead we should pray that God have mercy on their souls.  "Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but [rather] give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance [is] mine; I will repay, saith the Lord." (Romans 12:19)

You win! God has your back! He loves and protects his children.  He will see that they are successful. "So shall they fear the name of the LORD from the west, and his glory from the rising of the sun. When the enemy shall come in like a flood, the Spirit of the LORD shall lift up a standard against him. " (Isaiah 59:19)  The spirit of the Lord will come in like a flood against the enemy on your behalf!  That is so wonderful to know he has your path established.  He warns "[Saying], Touch not mine anointed, and do my prophets no harm." (Psalm 105:15) So he truly wants the best for you and will always honor his word.

Your trial is just the test before the testimony and you will be so much stronger and closer to God when all is said and done.  Don't let your trials determine your future.  Use your experiences to grow in faith.  "[We are] troubled on every side, yet not distressed; [we are] perplexed, but not in despair; Persecuted, but not forsaken; cast down, but not destroyed; " (2 Corinthians 4:8-9) It is not over until God says that it is over.  Keep pressing toward victory!

Finally, when you have done everything that you can in the natural just STAND! Let God put his SUPER on your NATURAL to do the SUPERNATURAL!"Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand." (Ephesians 6:13)

ABC's

I have a poster in my room with this written on it.  I do not know the original author, but I feel like it's a good set of instructions so I'm posting.  Please take a look.

To Achieve Your Dreams Remember Your ABC's

Avoid negative sources, people, places, things and habits
Believe in yourself
Consider things from every angle
Don't give up and don't give in
Enjoy life today;yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come
Family and friends are hidden treasures;seek them and enjoy their riches
Give more than you planned to
Hang on to your dreams
Ignore those who try to discourage you
Just do it
Keep trying ; no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier
Love yourself first and most
Make it happen
Never lie, cheat, or steal;always strike a fair deal
Open your eyes and see things as they really are
Practice makes perfect
Quitters never win and winners never quit
Read, study and learn about everything important in your life
Stop procrastinating
Take control of your own destiny
Understand yourself in order to better understand others
Visualize it
Want it more than anything
Xcelerate your efforts
You are unique of all God's creations; nothing can replace you
Zero in on your target and go for it

So, there it is and I pray it blesses you.  Remember though, that with any advice or words of wisdom always listen to what God tells you over anything else.  His voice should be the most important thing in your life.  God bless!

Don't be ashamed!

There are a lot of people out there both male and female that are not sexually active and some that are even still virgins.  I just want you to be encouraged today that there is nothing wrong with that.  Do not let pop culture and society tell you that you must have sex in order to be somebody.  That is a lie straight from the pits of Hell.  You are a completely unique individual.  You are not "weird" or "lame" or a "square" because you choose not to participate in sexual activity.  Of course you are going to be peculiar to the world because you are representing Christ and making wise decisions.  Anyone that calls you those names is probably jealous that you have avoided the pitfalls of premarital sex and fornication.  The Bible tells us to flee fornication anyway "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body." 1 Corinthians 6:18 Your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost, therefore we should not sin against it.  You should never feel ashamed for honouring God "Yet if [any man suffer] as a Christian, let him not be ashamed; but let him glorify God on this behalf." 1 Peter 4:16

When you have sex outside of marriage you are putting yourself and others at risk.  You could contract an STD or get yourself pregnant ladies and guys you could have the responsibility of a child before you are ready.  The the cycle of fatherless homes then begins and continues to infect the community.  This often leads to violence, jail time, or early death.  Not to mention that some of these individuals have not been given a strong foundation in the things of God because their parents are still developing themselves.   Many of us are faced with the pressures of sexual temptation everyday.  We see it on television and in public on a regular basis.  The world would have you believe that it is the norm and that since everyone is doing it that it is okay. It is another tactic of Satan who only wants to separate you from God, but praise the Lord that he Loves us anyway and we have freedom through Jesus Christ! (John 8:36)

Men, anytime a woman tries to tempt you into sexual activity, do not be ashamed to say NO!  You may even have to run sometimes as Joseph did in the Bible (Genesis 39:7-10).  You are not weak if you have to do this.  You are just being honest with where you are at the moment.  If a woman calls you "gay" or a "punk" because you refuse to have sex with her, just shake the dust off your feet and keep it moving.  I would rather her call me names that are not true than to end up jeopardizing my walk with God.  I cannot give in when there is a great woman out there waiting for me. Plus, you will feel worse if you fall into sin with a woman and create a "soul tie".  Show her your strength by saying no and refusing to give in.  Don't be afraid of losing her, because if she can't respect your walk then she is not the woman for you anyway. Besides, if she is calling you those names then she is disrespecting Jesus as well, because I did not read any account of Jesus fornicating in the Bible.

Women, do not let a man manipulate you into sexual activity. He may even call you names like "church girl" or what have you, but do not fall for it.  A man may also try to convince you by saying that he can make you a woman by having sex with you.  The ONLY one that can make you a woman is God through the blood of Jesus!  If a man is speaking to you that way he is trying to manipulate you and play on your weaknesses or fulfillment issues.  Do not allow this to take place.  Some women feel like they have to be with someone in order to feel important or fulfilled, but that is not true.  If you have to, just get a pet or something, but do not get into a relationship with the wrong man! I repeat. Do not get into a relationship with the wrong man! Guys, you should not be with the wrong woman either. You should be equally yoked. "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14

If you are not participating in sexual activity your life is a testimony to someone.  Yes, it will seem hard or like everyone is laughing at you. That's called persecution and it's usually an indication that you are on the right path.  You may even experience persecution from those in the church or your family as well, especially as a male because so many people feel like a male is supposed to be sexually active.  This has been a way of proving whether or not your son was gay, especially in the black community.  That is not of God and you are not gay just because you are being obedient and honouring God with your body by abstaining from sex.  Remember also, when you honour God he will honour you as well and put you on display (1 Samuel 2:30).  So let them say whatever, because God does the rewarding. "And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." Galatians 6:9

For anyone that has participated in sex, you are a testimony as well.  God uses you in a mighty way to steer those who may be headed down the wrong path to the truth.  The word says that "[There is] therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit." Romans 8:1  So you do not have to feel condemned about your past life. When you repent God puts it into the sea of forgetfulness anyway as the scripture says "He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea." Micah 7:19  The only one who tries to bring up past sins is Satan because he is the accuser of the brethren (Revelation 12:10).  So, just rebuke that clown and go on about God's business.  Your testimony will help someone else overcome (Revelation 12:10).

So do not be ashamed because you do not have a sexual presence in the world.  Just be sure that you are serving God with all of your heart and he will take care of any area of lack in your life "Though thy beginning was small, yet thy latter end should greatly increase." Job 8:7.   Do not let others persuade you to get off of the path that God has laid out for you.  Do not grow weary, tired, or depressed from your journey, because that is only a trick of Satan to make you believe that what God said will not come to pass.  Remember, Satan is the father of lies and there is no truth found in him (John 8:44).  It may seem like your work is in vain, but don't give up "But thanks [be] to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ." -1 Corinthians 15:57 

Check out this video entitled "I will wait for you"

All of my help comes from the Lord!

My help [cometh] from the LORD, which made heaven and earth. Psalm 121:2

It is important to remember where our help comes from. We are not in this fight alone. Sometimes it seems like it is just us against the world, but remember we have the Holy Trinity and minions of angels at our side.  As Christians sometimes we forget all of the weapons that God has given us in our everyday battles. Weapons like the word of God, prayer, fasting, praise, worship and LOVE. The scripture says "(For the weapons of our warfare [are] not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;)" --2 Cor. 10:4  We should not forget about God by trying to do everything alone and crowning ourselves as God.  We MUST use the word of God to overcome every temptation, test, and trial that is set before us.  Every answer that we need is in the word of God. Why fear when the Lord has already overcome the world? "I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have [perfect] peace and confidence. In the world you have tribulation and trials and distress and frustration; but be of good cheer [take courage; be confident, certain, undaunted]! For I have overcome the world. [I have deprived it of power to harm you and have conquered it for you.]" John 16:33 AMP Praise God! He has deprived the world of power to harm us and he has conquered it!

We should go about our christian lives in peace knowing that God has already worked things out in our favor.  "GOD IS our Refuge and Strength [mighty and impenetrable to temptation], a very present and well-proved help in trouble. ²Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change and though the mountains be shaken into the midst of the seas, ³Though its waters roar and foam, though the mountains tremble at its swelling and tumult. Selah [pause, and calmly think of that]!" -- Psalm 46:1-3 AMP

We do not have to walk in fear, doubt or disbelief of God's promises, because God cannot lie.  He wants the best for us and he has prepared a place for us.  We must continue to fight the good fight of faith while on this earth.  We do not have to feel pressured about how we are going to accomplish something, because it is already done.  We should not be worried about tomorrow. " ³¹Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? ³²(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. ³³But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." Matt. 6:31-33

So men and women of God, do not be discouraged! Keep in mind that the battle is not yours, but the Lord's and he cannot lose! The fight is already won! We Win! We Win! We Win!

Fear thou not; for I [am] with thee: be not dismayed; for I [am] thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. -- Isaiah 41:10

Be a Gentleman. Not a Pushover.

Jesus was a nice guy not a pushover. Men of God should be nice, but not too nice so as to let people take advantage of you.  You should be balanced and consistent.  Jesus did not allow people to interfere with his Father's business.  The scripture tells us in Matthew "12 And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the moneychangers, and the seats of them that sold doves, 13 And said unto them, It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves." Matt 21:12-13 Jesus was not about to allow the house of prayer to be a den of thieves.  He cast them out and overthrew the tables.  Although Jesus was nice he was not a pushover.  These are the characteristics that we should observe as men of God.  We should not allow wrongdoing to take place in our midst. 

How are we allowing ourselves to be pushovers in our personal lives?  Do you have trouble saying no? Especially to women?  Are you doing someones dirty work for them all of the time?  Are you allowing what someone else says or thinks to alter your beliefs or actions?  If so, you may be allowing yourself to be a pushover.  Let's take another look at how Jesus stayed focused on his Father's business this time in dealing with his family when they were looking for him.  The scripture says When his parents saw him, they were astonished. His mother said to him, "Son, why have you treated us like this? Your father and I have been anxiously searching for you."  "Why were you searching for me?" he asked. "Didn't you know I had to be in my Father's house?" Jesus did not even let his family get between his purpose being fulfilled.  Sometimes we have to learn to say no even to the ones we love.  We should always obey our heavenly Father first and foremost.

So now let me give some examples of being a gentleman.  Being a gentleman is seeking opportunities to relieve and assist not just women but people in general with tasks or duties that may be burdensome or overwhelming for a time or season.  For instance, the most basic form of being a gentleman may be simply holding doors, pulling out chairs, carrying heavy objects etc...  More advanced forms could be if the Lord assigns a man to assist a family or single mother with raising a son by being an example to him and providing verbal support or rearing.  I have heard testimony of men being sent to assist a woman of God to raise her child without any expectancy of anything from her just the sole purpose of assisting her with that child.  A man that does this is not a pushover, but rather a yielded vessel being used by God to be a blessing or in other words to prevent misfortune in the lives of others.

The Holy Spirit is a gentleman.  He will not come in unless you let him in.  He is not forceful or pushy, but rather allows you to have freewill to choose him.  Just allow him to guide and direct you on who you should be helping and how you should be going about ministering that help.  When you help people that the Lord does not direct you to help you open yourself up for bitterness when that individual does not reciprocate your generosity.  You should do things without strings attached anyway.  Always operate in charity and never operate in selfishness.  Continue to walk in the fruit of the spirit (Galatians 5:22-26).  Do not allow feelings of hurt to harbor in your spirit if you feel that you have been taken advantage of.  This only blocks your future blessings.  Always forgive and continue to be more like Christ each day. By reading about him you learn more about the type of man that he was and how to live a more balanced life.

Being a pushover is allowing someone to abuse you or take your kindness for weakness.  Men, some women are only after a free ride and will let you do things for them if you continue to offer.  Women, some men will take advantage of you as well if you allow them to.  Do not offer more of yourself than a person has earned.  For instance, if you are not married, then no one has earned your physical affection.  Do not give that away.  The same goes with money.  Do not throw away hard earned money on a person that only wants to use it up.  I look at money as a seed and try to only sew it into good ground.  Also men, a woman does not want a man that is a pushover.  She needs someone that can stand up to anything that she puts out and be able to handle her.  I'm not giving women an excuse to be bossy and controlling, but as a man you have to know how to institute correction in Love.  Remember, you are the head of the household and you are responsible for the decisions of the family.

One more thing guys.  If a woman does something or says something that does not line up with the word of God do not be afraid to tell her so in Love.  Do not fear losing her because if you have to compromise to keep something you will lose it anyway (Thanks Pastor).  This is how sin entered the garden of Eden.  Adam knew better and Eve did not.  When Eve listened to the serpent Adam allowed it instead of correcting her and casting the serpent out.  Do not let sin triumph again by being a  pushover.  You have to say what's right even if it means losing some friends or a love interest.  God is a God of restoration and he can restore anything that you lost better than it was before. Ultimately, you want to please God and not man.  To quote Bill Cosby "I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody."  Stop being a "yes man" and a people pleaser and stand up for what's right.  You will be so much more happy with yourself in the end.

Good Intentions

Many of us have goals and dreams that we would like to accomplish, but how many of us make those dreams a reality by taking action and bringing them to pass?  Our intentions say "Hey, I wanna do this" or "I intend on doing that" but if we do not make steps toward these intentions then they mean absolutely nothing.  My pastor has often said that "The pathway to Hell is paved with good intentions".  Procrastinating where your faith is concerned and allowing things to distract you will knock you off of the path to success.  Of course, many are familiar with the saying "Failing to plan is planning to fail" which is so true especially when concerning decisions that will improve your way of life.  We must plan and prioritize for our future.

How do our intentions relate to our relationships with others?  Well, anyone that has children or nieces and nephews should know that if we intend on doing something for them, then we should do it.  Time passes so fast these days and children grow up so very quickly.  When a parent or guardian promises something to a child and does not deliver on that promise the child can remember that broken agreement for years to come.  The excuse of "I intended to do it" does not work.  You have let the child down and must redeem yourself with them.  Otherwise, to that child the hurt remains and depending on the extent of the situation it can take a while to heal.  So, let's fast forward to adulthood and dating/marriage.  Men. Would you dare promise your wife something and not deliver? Not if you want to keep your relationship happy.  A woman does not want to be lied to and neither should you be okay with letting her down.  Likewise, ladies do not promise something great to your husband and default on the promise.

So, how many promises do we have stacked up in our good intentions file?  I once had a friend tell me that they had intended on calling me, but I never got the call.  What if I had been going through something stressful and needed encouragement?  Okay, so your heart was in the right place, so what? Please stop saying that.  What good is that going to do if they never knew that you were thinking of them. Speak up!  These types of situations should never be, especially for those of the household of faith.  So, whatever the "intention" be it a phone call,  a gift,  a meeting  or whatever, be sure to act on it because you never know who you could have blessed by doing so. 

Are we using "good intentions" with God?  Do we intend on reading our Bibles? Or intend on praying, fasting, serving at church etc...?  Are we being lazy with our faith?  "The soul of the sluggard desireth, and [hath] nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat." Proverbs 13:4 What if Jesus only had good intentions and only thought about dying for our sins, but never did so?  We would all be heading straight to Hell right now with no hope in sight.  So, we must do more that just have good intentions with our faith.  Start practicing on your faith now.  Even if you start small that is okay.  One verse of scripture per day is a great place to start.  You will add more as you continue to grow. Pray about the church that you should attend.  When you get rooted and grounded in a good church it is a great foundation that you can use to build your life upon.  The church has a ministry area for you.  Pray and ask God where you can be used and how you can be a blessing to others.  Pray that TODAY. Do not wait.  You do not know how much longer you will have a chance to ask that question.  The talents that he gives you are for the benefit of the kingdom of God.  Plus, you will be closer to the will of God for your life. 

Do not take good intentions to the gates of heaven, if so do not be surprised if you're asked to take those intentions to the gates of Hell.  I'm not trying to scare anyone, I'm just saying that it is time to stop playing around with your purpose in life.  By having only good intentions you are hurting others with misleading expectations and you are operating in selfishness by not thinking of your brother or sister.  Besides, you would not want anyone to break promises toward you.  We must have works along with our faith, otherwise it is dead.  "But wilt thou know, O vain man, that faith without works is dead? " James 2:20